Some thoughts on daring greatly…step into the arena
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt, April 23, 1910
You might be surprised to learn that President Theodore Roosevelt spoke these words after completing his last term as president in March 1909. No doubt, these are powerful words that deliver a strong message, which still resonates today. He challenges us to be courageous, understanding that we will face errors and shortcomings, but we can do so without guilt or shame. Life, after all, is a journey.
It was President Roosevelt’s message that inspired Dr. Brené Brown to pursue the writing of her book “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead.” And it was in June 2010 when Dr. Brown was invited to deliver a TED Talk on The Power of Vulnerability, which, as of today, has 27,479,774 views.
Dr. Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston, commenced her journey by declaring “I want to start a global conversation about vulnerability and shame.” And so began The Daring Way™.
So, what is The Daring Way™?
Simply put, The Daring Way™ is a certification and training program designed for helping (behavioral health) professionals to assist adolescents, women and men to SHOW UP, BE SEEN, and LIVE BRAVE™. The goal is to promote both authentic and wholehearted living. This experiential methodology can be applied in counseling couples, individuals, and families. Additionally, some organizations offer it to facilitate processes with leaders and team members.
The Daring Way™ offered at Family Recovery Specialists
At Family Recovery Specialists (FRS) our Certified Daring Way™ Facilitators (Diana Garcia, LMHC, CDWF and Ana M. Moreno, LMHC, CDWF) offer clients, who are attempting to cope with alcohol and drug addiction, an alternative approach to examine their comparisons, thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, which hold them back from seeking and accepting recovery.
FRS Co-Founder Ana M. Moreno, psychotherapist and addiction specialist, shares her views on being a certified facilitator for The Daring Way™:
“I was drawn to The Daring Way™ because I believe at the core of being human, we are meant to be onnected to others in intimate and meaningful ways. Substance Use Disorder (SUD) and other mental disorders work against that belief, as they can be isolating diseases that come with many shame related to behaviors. If we can help a client move from shame to guilt, it can motivate change. When clients can learn to be self-compassionate they can be empathetic to those people that love them and that they love. If they can be vulnerable with a person that can value and appreciate them, it increases the intimacy in relationships. The more a person feels loved and loves, the higher the likelihood of them taking better care of themselves and recovering.”
Moving towards self-compassion and empathy…
The disease of addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders will eventually disconnect the person from their loved ones. Shame is felt and it is painful; the person concludes that they don’t and can’t belong. They don’t deserve to be loved.
Engagement is paramount to having the courage of owning your story and sharing your story. At FRS, our clients learn the power of empathy, avoiding judgement, gaining perspective; while really communicating and recognizing emotion…with a mindfulness of purpose.
People tend to confuse empathy with sympathy. They are not synonymous. In closing today, we would like to share a short video: Brené Brown on Empathy.
Will you be part of the global conversation?
Are you willing to take a chance in your life and Dare Greatly?